Pt 02 (made in the thigh) Hmm .. issue that always gives "cloth to manga" ...
Somehow I always try to avoid "the laws of man "(in the sense of" to do by imposing "and not by reflection). However, as not believe a church, also try to avoid" the law of God. "Nevertheless, I live in society and therefore, some kind behavior is subject to laws "imposed" (which is the custom, education, constitution or otherwise) I have. I think it is inevitable (at least at first).
But, for once, I am, here once again, facing a situation of existential dilemma (oh, how I'm deep): If someone disappoints you, treats you with disrespect, or frustrate their expectations, to be simpler, it makes you lose a little of that special respect (no respect for the human being "human being") that you have someone that you chose a circle around you than most people, like (re) act in relation to that person thereafter?
First. Let's clarify: About
disappointment: This disappointment does not occur solely in accordance with the expectations created by the individual? Namely, you disappoint with something after their own expectations. Even though there is some kind of say "cultural expectation," she may or may not be accepted. About
respect: When you "host" someone to an inner circle, given that there is a special consideration (an extreme hypothetical situation: you save the life of a friend or a total stranger?) there is also a special respect.
Thinking in terms of concentric circles; The larger the radius the smaller "special respect". Logo, um total desconhecido, tem (da minha parte) somente o respeito que eu tenho por ele ser humano. If a friend or someone closer, beyond this point, there is "something else". There is a special respect and particular.
Returning: know someone, we give a special meaning, we create some kind of expectation from the experience we have with this person, there is disappointment (not start me on trial. We all assumed. Otherwise we would not view). And now? Probably this person is a circle of larger radius. In the case of some kind of attitude that might "hurt her," how to act? Should we care so much about to do what we want not just a matter of respect (I'm not talking now, in extreme cases)?
If someone like to sometimes stop doing things we want because it might hurt her. Similarly (and I think the result, in a sense, is the same), doing things that do not only want to do well in that one (watching romantic comedies say something?).
So do or not do?
not really like the idea of "eye for eye, tooth for tooth" but on the other hand, forgiveness / absolution did not please me. I do not like that I apologize. I feel that if I say "sorry" the person will feel free to do it again.
The process seems almost always the same: The cause harm to B, B feel discontent, feeling guilty, apologizes A, B forgives, forgets A, B, do not forget, The cause other damage to B and so on.
is not the case to be vindictive or extremist, but the first time the mouse takes the shock, he hesitates at the fifth, tenth in it takes no more shock. The question is: What if the tenth time not hover mouse shock and lost opportunity. Of course there is a predisposition to behavior, but the events are isolated. But our views were unchanged. However, there is again the expectation. Apparently it's impossible not to expect the tenth shock.
A question I ask myself (if anyone knows answer me) is: If the mouse A "learn" not to take the shock before the mouse B this means that the mouse is the most intelligent (or any kind of superiority) the mouse B?
Anyway, the question remains:
"I will do for you"
"I will not do for you"
Until when is valid?
